Healing & Growth

Psycho-social decolonization and recovering your natural joy & power.

Some patterns aren’t just thinking errors, they’re emotional survival strategies. These patterns are signals, and when you learn to decode them, they tell you about your needs, your values, and your dreams.

How to change your mood at will and rewire your brain for permanent happiness

How to use ChatGPT for self-therapy and self-coaching, with full prompts and responses.

If you heal, does that mean you are letting the people who hurt you off the hook?

Learn why creative & intuitive types can get stuck around motivation, and how to create that sweet, sweet alignment that makes you excited to jump out of bed in the morning.

Shifting from a bad mood to a good mood is both easier and harder than it sounds.

The moment when your brain offers you an interpretation based in trauma and you choose reality instead.

How to withdraw your inner critic and aspirational fantasies from objects so you can let them go.

Wherein I explain healing fantasies (aka redemption or salvation fantasies), the function they serve, my personal history with them, and what to do about them.

Why our mind inflicts pain on itself and how to make it stop.

Giving up my healing fantasy of emotional rescue and learning to give myself the validation I always needed.

You have no power over the past. But you do have power over your present.

Processing trauma isn’t nearly as complicated as it often sounds.

You don’t need to fight a battle against a ghost. All you need to do is see that it is a ghost.

Guilt and self-criticism do not improve your behavior. You can love yourself, even when you’re not perfect.

Sometimes you are just reinforcing negative beliefs.

Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.

We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.

Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.