Who I am and what I have to say.
Hello! My name is Emma, and I write about personal growth in the context of healing from childhood trauma, including attachment and complex PTSD.
This page has some background about me personally so you can get to know me better.
My background / training
I have studied a lot of different methodologies and frameworks of mental and emotional healing and personal growth, but I don’t have any kind of certification and I don’t work with clients directly. I create content around things that have worked for me and consider myself a personal growth educator, rather than a therapist or coach.
I have completed or partially completed trainings in Hakomi (a mindfulness-based therapy method), attachment styles, trauma, Presence-Based Coaching, and I studied and helped teach Nonviolent Communication (NVC) for several years, including in prison (but am not a certified trainer). I have also casually studied Internal Family Systems (parts work), and have spent many years unravelling my personal history, patterns, pain, and learning what I need to thrive.
I try to keep it real here and share things that worked for me. I’m not a self-help guru, I’m just a person who has been trying to figure out her life for awhile.
I have been following my own spiritual path for about 20 years that mostly consists of direct inner awareness of Spirit (mysticism). I’ve gotten value out of various teachings including Wicca, Buddhism, New Thought, and A Course in Miracles. My approach to spirituality is not about belief as much as utility.
I also love the Myers-Briggs type system. As an ENFP, it has been foundational for self-acceptance and understanding what my mind needs to be happy.
I’m a generalist; I study broadly and use what works for me.
My personal life
I live in Oregon, which is on the West coast of the US. I grew up in Southern Oregon, on a farm in the woods.
I’m a semi-retired web designer and developer.
I’m constantly interested in new ideas and making connections between ideas, especially ones that don’t seem related to most people. I seek novelty, which can look like “shiny object syndrome”, but it’s a deep need for me to absorb novel stimuli and make sense of them. The result is that I have a broad and eclectic history of minor and major obsessions with different philosophies, systems, frameworks, hobbies, etc. I post random stuff that interests me on my ideation blog.
In 2014, I married someone who was in prison, and was a prison wife for 7 years. It was an overwhelming, painful, and transformative experience that shattered my understanding of “America” and I’m still making sense of it. He is out now and we are healing and re-orienting.
I have always been sensitive to suffering, especially feelings of alienation and loneliness and disconnection. I am drawn to the shadows within the mind and within the world. I know I can’t “save” the world, as it has to evolve and grow at its own pace, just like individual humans do. But I do care, and want to contribute to more happiness and healing where I can.
Why the name Joy Ninja?
To me, Joy Ninja basically means “spiritual warrior”, which to some is a contradiction in terms, but I see it as more as being about discipline or mental training to see through illusions, rather than doing battle.
I’m a pacifist, and healing or integration is the opposite of fighting. But at the same time, our minds put up a hell of a fight sometimes in trying to convince us that threats are real and to employ defenses. So being a “joy ninja” means cultivating the discipline to recognize the truth when we see it, and the willingness to shed illusions, especially the ones that feel precious and necessary, and to continually seek freedom.