You’ve got this.
Whatever you are struggling with, there is a way through. It does not define you.
I write about the art of self-liberation: do-it-yourself healing and personal growth. I am not a therapist or a guru, I’m just a person with a fierce belief in the power of the mind to heal itself.
I believe healing rests on a commitment to inner non-violence: developing a relationship with yourself based on love and support rather than fear and sacrifice. Inner peace comes when you end the inner war.
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The Hell that is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (and How to Heal It)How to Process Trauma By Yourself (Without Therapy)Healing Fantasies: Releasing the Longing to Be RescuedHow to Meet Your Own Emotional Needs Through Self-Validation
Hi, I’m Emma. On this blog, I share insights and tools that have helped me heal my childhood CPTSD and attachment trauma. I hope they help you create a sense of inner safety, recover your natural joy, and freely shine your Light.
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The Layer Cake of Sustainable Motivation
Learn why creative & intuitive types can get stuck around motivation, and how to create that sweet, sweet alignment that makes you excited to jump out of bed in the morning.
Intro to State Shifting: Choosing to Be Happy Anyway
Shifting from a bad mood to a good mood is both easier and harder than it sounds.
The Moment Healing Happens In Your Mind
The moment when your brain offers you an interpretation based in trauma and you choose reality instead.
Healing Clutter: Trauma and the Tyranny of Aspirational Objects
How to withdraw your inner critic and aspirational fantasies from objects so you can let them go.
Healing Fantasies: Releasing the Longing to Be Rescued
Wherein I explain healing fantasies (aka redemption or salvation fantasies), the function they serve, my personal history with them, and what to do about them.
Self-Loathing Serves a Purpose (and How to Heal)
Why our mind inflicts pain on itself and how to make it stop.
How to Meet Your Own Emotional Needs Through Self-Validation
Giving up my healing fantasy of emotional rescue and learning to give myself the validation I always needed.
Don’t Hold Your Present Hostage To Your Past
You have no power over the past. But you do have power over your present.
How to Process Trauma By Yourself (Without Therapy)
Processing trauma isn’t nearly as complicated as it often sounds.
False Spirituality and Self-Delusion
“Meant to be” can easily become a way to disempower ourselves.
What to Do When Your Emotions Feel Out of Control
You don’t need to fight a battle against a ghost. All you need to do is see that it is a ghost.
Conscious Coping – Let Yourself Have It
Guilt and self-criticism do not improve your behavior. You can love yourself, even when you’re not perfect.
When “Feel Your Feelings” Doesn’t Work
Sometimes you are just reinforcing negative beliefs.
The Hell that is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (and How to Heal It)
Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.
It Doesn’t Have to Mean That You’re Broken
We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.
Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
Darkness is Merely the Absence of Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
Day 2 and I’m Nervous (What Trusting the Process Looks Like)
A process post where I write myself through my feelings.
Radical Allegiance to Your Creative Self
How to affirm, support, protect, defend, nurture, and fiercely love your creative self.
