Hi, I’m Emma. I'm an ideator, optimizer, and personal growth nerd, with a dash of woo and politics. On this blog, I share insights from my life quest of seeking truth, joy, & magic. Welcome. 💛
Healing Fantasies: Releasing the Longing to Be Rescued
Wherein I explain healing fantasies (aka redemption or salvation fantasies), the function they serve, my personal history with them, and what to do about them.
Self-Loathing Serves a Purpose (and How to Heal)
Why our mind inflicts pain on itself and how to make it stop.
How to Meet Your Own Emotional Needs Through Self-Validation
Giving up my healing fantasy of emotional rescue and learning to give myself the validation I always needed.
Don’t Hold Your Present Hostage To Your Past
You have no power over the past. But you do have power over your present.
How to Process Trauma By Yourself (Without Therapy)
Processing trauma isn’t nearly as complicated as it often sounds.
False Spirituality and Self-Delusion
“Meant to be” can easily become a way to disempower ourselves.
What to Do When Your Emotions Feel Out of Control
You don’t need to fight a battle against a ghost. All you need to do is see that it is a ghost.
Conscious Coping – Let Yourself Have It
Guilt and self-criticism do not improve your behavior. You can love yourself, even when you’re not perfect.
When “Feel Your Feelings” Doesn’t Work
Sometimes you are just reinforcing negative beliefs.
The Hell that is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (and How to Heal It)
Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.
It Doesn’t Have to Mean That You’re Broken
We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.
Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
Finding the Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
Day 2 and I’m Nervous (What Trusting the Process Looks Like)
A process post where I write myself through my feelings.
Radical Allegiance to Your Creative Self
How to affirm, support, protect, defend, nurture, and fiercely love your creative self.
Restart
I want to write again. Let’s do this.