Freedom is an inside job.
I write about self-liberation: healing, personal growth, and self-empowerment.For more recent writing, visit my newsletter at Sparkly Dark.
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Hi, I’m Emma. I've been working on my own healing and walking a spiritual path for 20 years. I share what has worked for me in the hope that others can use it to heal and find their own authentic joy and power.
Where to Start
- Attachment. I have Fearful-Avoidant attachment. I have a primer on adult attachment style as well as a detailed post on my journey with healing FA. I have also written a guide for people unsure of which attachment style they have and what activating and de-activating strategies means in attachment.
- CPTSD (Complex PTSD). I have CPTSD from childhood trauma. I have a primer on trauma/CPTSD and discuss inner child healing with parts work, emotional neglect and emotional flashbacks.
- Fantasy/Delusion. One way my brain coped with trauma was through romantic rescue fantasies and limerence. I've also written about false spirituality and self-delusion.
- Self-healing. It starts with mindfulness. I've also written about how to process trauma without therapy, change your core beliefs, practice self-validation, end self-loathing, and rewire your brain in real-time. I also have a list of my favorite resources (Youtubers, books, courses).
- State shifting. This is the technique of training yourself to "be happy anyway", i.e. self-generate states of joy and happiness to reset your baseline emotional state. I have an introdution to state-shifting and how it differs from toxic positivity.
New Posts
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June 4, 2021
Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
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June 3, 2021
Darkness is Merely the Absence of Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
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June 1, 2021
You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
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Day 2 and I’m Nervous (What Trusting the Process Looks Like)
A process post where I write myself through my feelings.
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May 30, 2021
Radical Allegiance to Your Creative Self
How to affirm, support, protect, defend, nurture, and fiercely love your creative self.
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Restart
I want to write again. Let’s do this.