Autistic or ADHD burnout is a specific kind of burnout that results from prolonged overstimulation of the nervous system.

This overstimulation can come from many sources, which is covered in What leads to autistic or ADHD burnout?.

Things that look like burnout or can overlap with it:

• Trauma con complicate the process of recovery. If you suspect you have both, I would start with burnout recovery, as you won’t have the bandwidth to do trauma work.
• Depression can overlap as well, here is the difference.

The basic idea of recovery

The recovery for autistic burnout is relatively simple, if sometimes difficult to implement: you must make your environment completely non-stressful for a prolonged period of time.

That means ruthlessly eliminating all forms of stress and creating an environment that is soothing and nourishing. This could include spending lots of time alone, going for walks in nature, playing games, reading novels, or watching your favorite shows—whatever it is that helps your nervous system feel safe and chill so it can recover.

Reduce or eliminate sources of stress:

• time spent in overstimulating environments (which will be most environments besides at home or in nature)
• time spent masking, trying to conform to neurotypical expectations, or trying to decode neurotypical communication patterns
• doing complex tasks that require a lot of executive function to complete
• having to do a lot of maintenance or chores (unless you enjoy that kind of thing!)
• emotional distress including relationship conflict
• any and all self-judgement about what you need right now
• being around people who consistently misunderstand or invalidate your feelings or needs

Be very judicious about your people-time as other people are a source of unpredictable stimulation. If possible, only hang out with people who are predictably comforting and are understanding of your needs and limits.

Start or increase sources of recovery:

• any stimming that works for you, including media consumption (as long as it does not negatively affect your mood—think My Little Pony, not doom scrolling)
• quiet time
• alone time
• unmasking
• accommodating anything you find difficult right now — for example, buying more ready to eat meals rather than expecting yourself to cook
• finding and doing activities that are enjoyable, pleasant, comforting, and interesting to you, no matter what they are or how they are seen or judged by society
• making your home space sensorily comforting and relaxing
• learning about your flavor of neurodivergence, which helps reduce self-judgement
• if it helps, join online support groups – see my links for autistic and ADHD resources

Can meds help?

To my knowledge there are no medications specifically for burnout, but I found taking non-stimulant meds for ADHD (Wellbutrin, Strattera) was helpful and seemed to blunt a bit of my sensory overwhelm, but YMMV.

Maintaining recovery requires long-term lifestyle changes

The reality of neurodivergence is that it just isn’t possible to hang out in neurotypical environments with neurotypical people doing neurotypical things for long periods of time and not suffer from burnout.

You may go through a grieving process as you come to terms with this.

The next step is giving yourself permission to design your lifestyle around your real needs. For example, I ended up downsizing from a big house with a yard I could never maintain to a small condo where someone else deals with raking the leaves and mowing the lawn.

You don’t have to keep living a life that hurts you, even if others (or some past version of yourself) expect it of you. It’s your life. Make it work for you.

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