Joy is your natural state.
There is a wild, free creature within you that has never been crushed by the pain and drudgery of the world. When you undo negative conditioning and forge a positive relationship with yourself, joy returns.
Permanently stop self-criticism, self-doubt, and comparing yourself to others.
End the inner war & relate to yourself with compassion rather than cruelty.
Why many therapy and self-help methods don’t work
They teach coping (trying to feel better) rather than healing (resolving the underlying wound). Real healing requires turning toward the pain.
They are not liberatory—their goal is to make you "normal" or more functional under capitalism, rather than happy & free.
They only work with the mind, and ignore the larger context—the body, nervous system, social & cultural context, and the soul's karma.
Hi, I’m Emma. I believe joy is a survival skill and a revolutionary act. I healed my shame, self-hatred, existential guilt, depression, attachment trauma, and autistic burnout, and you can too. Sustainable happiness is not out of reach: it rests on a set of skills that you can learn and practice.
How to Heal & Be Happy
- Healing fantasies - escape fantasies, romance fantasies, rescue fantasies
- Limerence
- False spirituality and self-delusion
- Mindfulness is always the starting point and most useful tool for self-healing.
- How to process trauma without therapy
- How to change your core beliefs
- How to validate yourself - immensely helpful for emotional regulation
- How to heal self-loathing
- How to rewire your brain in real-time
- My favorite resources - Youtubers, books, courses
Archive
The Hell that is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (and How to Heal It)
Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.
It Doesn’t Have to Mean That You’re Broken
We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.
Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
Darkness is Merely the Absence of Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
Day 2 and I’m Nervous (What Trusting the Process Looks Like)
A process post where I write myself through my feelings.
Radical Allegiance to Your Creative Self
How to affirm, support, protect, defend, nurture, and fiercely love your creative self.
Restart
I want to write again. Let’s do this.
