Joy is your natural state.
There is a wild, free creature within you that has never been crushed by the pain and drudgery of the world. When you undo negative conditioning and forge a positive relationship with yourself, joy returns.
Hi, Iām Emma. I believe joy is a survival skill and a revolutionary act. I healed my shame, self-hatred, existential guilt, depression, attachment trauma, and autistic burnout, and you can too. Sustainable happiness is not out of reach: it rests on a set of skills that you can learn and practice.
Where to Start
- Attachment. I have Fearful-Avoidant attachment. I have a primer on adult attachment style as well as a detailed post on my journey with healing FA. I have also written a guide for people unsure of which attachment style they have and what activating and de-activating strategies means in attachment.
- CPTSD (Complex PTSD). I have CPTSD from childhood trauma. I have a primer on trauma/CPTSD and discuss inner child healing with parts work, emotional neglect and emotional flashbacks.
- Fantasy/Delusion. One way my brain coped with trauma was through romantic rescue fantasies and limerence. I've also written about false spirituality and self-delusion.
- Self-healing. It starts with mindfulness. I've also written about how to process trauma without therapy, change your core beliefs, practice self-validation, end self-loathing, and rewire your brain in real-time. I also have a list of my favorite resources (Youtubers, books, courses).
- State shifting. This is the technique of training yourself to "be happy anyway", i.e. self-generate states of joy and happiness to reset your baseline emotional state. I have an introdution to state-shifting and how it differs from toxic positivity.
New Posts
June 4, 2021
Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
June 3, 2021
Darkness is Merely the Absence of Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
June 1, 2021
You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
Day 2 and I’m Nervous (What Trusting the Process Looks Like)
A process post where I write myself through my feelings.
May 30, 2021
Radical Allegiance to Your Creative Self
How to affirm, support, protect, defend, nurture, and fiercely love your creative self.Ā
Restart
I want to write again. Let’s do this.
