Healing & Growth
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How to Use ChatGPT for Self-Therapy, Self-Coaching, and Personal Growth
Three examples of using ChatGPT for self-therapy and self-coaching, with full prompts and responses.
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Why Healing Can Feel Like Self-Betrayal
If you heal, does that mean you are letting the people who hurt you off the hook?
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Intro to State Shifting: Choosing to Be Happy Anyway
Shifting from a bad mood to a good mood is both easier and harder than it sounds.
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The Moment Healing Happens In Your Mind
The moment when your brain offers you an interpretation based in trauma and you choose reality instead.
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Healing Clutter: Trauma and the Tyranny of Aspirational Objects
How to withdraw your inner critic and aspirational fantasies from objects so you can let them go.
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Healing Fantasies: Releasing the Longing to Be Rescued
Wherein I explain healing fantasies (aka redemption or salvation fantasies), the function they serve, my personal history with them, and what to do about them.
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Self-Loathing Serves a Purpose (and How to Heal)
Why our mind inflicts pain on itself and how to make it stop.
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How to Meet Your Own Emotional Needs Through Self-Validation
Giving up my healing fantasy of emotional rescue and learning to give myself the validation I always needed.
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Don’t Hold Your Present Hostage To Your Past
You have no power over the past. But you do have power over your present.
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How to Process Trauma By Yourself (Without Therapy)
Processing trauma isn’t nearly as complicated as it often sounds.
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False Spirituality and Self-Delusion
“Meant to be” can easily become a way to disempower ourselves.
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How to Heal Core Belief-Fueled Emotional Reactivity
You don’t need to fight a battle against a ghost. All you need to do is see that it is a ghost.
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Conscious Coping – Let Yourself Have It
Guilt and self-criticism do not improve your behavior. You can love yourself, even when you’re not perfect.
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When “Feel Your Feelings” Doesn’t Work
Sometimes you are just reinforcing negative beliefs.
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The Hell that is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (and How to Heal It)
Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.
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It Doesn’t Have to Mean That You’re Broken
We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.
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Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
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Darkness is Merely the Absence of Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
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You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
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When your world falls apart, can you still love yourself?
Life, pain, God, and loving yourself and the world with such fierceness that you find the state of Grace.