Healing & Growth
Why our mind inflicts pain on itself and how to make it stop.
Giving up my healing fantasy of emotional rescue and learning to give myself the validation I always needed.
You have no power over the past. But you do have power over your present.
Processing trauma isn’t nearly as complicated as it often sounds.
“Meant to be” can easily become a way to disempower ourselves.
Guilt and self-criticism do not improve your behavior. You can love yourself, even when you’re not perfect.
Sometimes you are just reinforcing negative beliefs.
Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.
We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
Life, pain, God, and loving yourself and the world with such fierceness that you find the state of Grace.
Wherein I get everything my heart desires and am still unhappy. But not for the reasons you’re thinking.
We make meaning out of tragedy. But the tragedy is still tragic.
Pain comes in many forms, and the key to healing is finding the right remedy for what you are experiencing. This post attempts to diagram all the kinds of psychological, emotional, and spiritual wounding I know of and the best remedies I have found for each.
Emily, my partner, my love, took her own life on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013. Below my letter is Emily’s good-bye note. I’m writing
Our limbic system is our body’s emotional-relational system. Some places it shows up: when you feel awkward when you don’t like someone
Today I was given the exercise to write “Things I wish my Mom had said to me”, and then say them to