Happiness
Conscious Coping – Let Yourself Have It
Guilt and self-criticism do not improve your behavior. You can love yourself, even when you’re not perfect.
When “Feel Your Feelings” Doesn’t Work
Sometimes you are just reinforcing negative beliefs.
The Hell that is Fearful-Avoidant Attachment (and How to Heal It)
Desperate to be loved, terrified to be seen.
It Was Never About You
We end up holding ourselves hostage to the meaning we give things. Change your story, change your life.
Healing School Trauma
Preparing kids “for the real world” by traumatizing them is ridiculous.
Darkness is Merely the Absence of Light
The darkness doesn’t spawn demons. We do.
You Can’t Become a Better Person
Healing is about remembering you are already whole.
When your world falls apart, can you still love yourself?
Life, pain, God, and loving yourself and the world with such fierceness that you find the state of Grace.
Enduring Pain You Cannot Change: My Life as a Prison Wife
Wherein I get everything my heart desires and am still unhappy. But not for the reasons you’re thinking.
Facing Unavoidable Pain
We make meaning out of tragedy. But the tragedy is still tragic.
Levels of Wounding and How to Heal Them
Pain comes in many forms, and the key to healing is finding the right remedy for what you are experiencing. This post
Living With Death: Making Sense of Suicide
Emily, my partner, my love, took her own life on Wednesday, July 31st, 2013. Below my letter is Emily’s good-bye note. I’m writing
Limbic Templates: How to Change Deep Patterns
Our limbic system is our body’s emotional-relational system. Some places it shows up: when you feel awkward when you don’t like someone
The world can’t wait to meet you
Today I was given the exercise to write “Things I wish my Mom had said to me”, and then say them to
Who are you living for?
These days I’m working on untangling a core pattern that goes like this: My life has meaning only if I’m helping people.
Cultivating Self-Worth
It’s one of the jobs of a parent to instill a child with a sense of their own worth. This happens naturally
The Joy Manifesto
There are creations only you can bring into the world. There is a purpose for your life–one that nobody else can fulfill.
Lumping and Splitting – Learning from Dog Training
I just discovered these terms used in animal training. From the blog Eileen and Dogs: Splitting is to look for and reinforce small
Trigger Calming Magic
When you are triggered, your autonomic nervous system is reacting to messages from your brain that you are in danger. Our body’s
Working With Regret
Regret is one of the hardest emotions we can feel. It can be a relief to realize that regret is a secondary emotion, and by addressing the primary feelings regret can be released.
