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Has Your Ego Co-Opted Your Growth Work? 0

As a self-proclaimed self-help junkie, I can attest that it can get confusing. Am I becoming happier or learning more ways to name my unhappiness? Am I becoming more open-hearted and curious, or learning more clever ways to act wise and knowing? Am I working […]

Book Review: Strengths Finder 2.0 0

This book and the included test identify your top five strengths and explain how to maximize them. The authors advocate working on your strengths rather than your weaknesses, arguing that you will only see marginal improvement if you try to strengthen a weakness, whereas you […]

Book Review: Comfort Queen’s Guide to Life 0

I love this book. Louden weaves stories about her own life and journey into a book of journal prompts for connecting to Self. She emphasizes “living the questions” over finding the answers. The first prompt I picked from the book was, “What do I really […]

How to Defuse a Trigger 0

To actively defuse a trigger (instead of just letting it wear itself out), you must stay aware during the process that you ARE triggered. You have to have a thread of awareness that stays with you throughout the triggered state, so you can give yourself […]

Cultivate Neutrality in the Face of Triggers 2

We all have triggers: situations that bring up old feelings that are out of proportion to the current experience. There are two ways to deal with triggers–go into them more deeply, and let a “healing crisis” occur (a cathartic release of the pent-up feelings). This […]

Non-Sucky Affirmations 2

Affirmations get a bad rap. The phrase “putting lipstick on a pig” sums up the most frequent criticisms. I see affirmations as a tool—they can be used effectively, or not. I have used them and they’ve helped me to rewire certain thought patterns, so I […]

Releasing Resentment 0

This hails originally from AA, and was taught to me by my friend Sarah Dopp. Who am I resentful toward and why? What does this affect in my life? Am I willing to show this person the same tolerance, compassion, and patience that I’d give […]